This is the way it has always been does not mean it is the way that it has to be!
As I work with more and more people and get to know where their perception of their reality stems from, one common theme stands out to me and that is the way that they perceive how things are or “should” be. How they were raised, how they were taught to believe, and how they were told that this is just the way it is. I hear this same idea littered throughout businesses or leaders in management and that is the phrase “well this is the way it has been, or this is the way that we have done such and such for years”. I point out this faulty perception and try and change their view that just because something is or has been does not mean that it is the way it could or should be.
Things are not black and white. We do not live in an all or nothing type universe. There is a lot of grey and we must learn how to navigate and operate in. Just because you did things a certain way 10 years ago and it worked at that time does not mean it is the way you should do them presently. We need to be able to be open to change, open to new ideas and new ways of thinking. The universe is fluid, flexible and ever changing as is our own lives. When we make the choice to draw a line in the sand on our views or stance and say without a doubt or question that this is the way it is or has to be we immediately have just closed off our mind from even thinking outside of the box or that things could be a different way.
We, at that moment, stop growing as an individual, we stop being open and receptive to new information, we stop evolving into a better version of ourselves.
A lot of it comes to how we view our world and reality. Are we strict and rigid in our thinking, unable to even try and believe that there might be a different view or way or perceiving things than how our mind sees them? As I work with others I challenge them to be open and receptive to different ways of perceiving their reality, allowing themselves to believe and be open that the way they view their world does not have to be rigid and closed.
If you are in need of a great resource on this topic check out the book Insight Principles by; Ken Manning, Robin Charbit, Sandra Krot